Is there anything wrong with a man washing his partner’s underwear? This public debate was sparked by a Facebook post by Pastor Bakhe Dlamini. In his post, Dlamini encouraged men to wash their wives’ underwear and further expressed how he saw nothing wrong with it.
In the post, Dlamini says there is nothing unclean with a woman’s underwear and adds that had it been unclean, sexual intercourse would also be unclean. He says if men like ‘the cookie’, they should also like what covers ‘the cookie’. “She does the same with yours. We need to be fair and not use being ‘men’ as an excuse not to care. I do that for my wife,” reads the post in part.
The heart of the matter does not lie in the handling of underwear but in men performing an equal share of domestic duties, including washing clothes, cooking or childcare.” Evidence demonstrates that men who take even a small role in unpaid house or childcare work are less likely to divorce or be unfaithful, less likely to commit crimes or be violent and more likely to have happier relationships, raise more successful children and even have better sex” said Tom Churchyard, KI Executive Director. He stated that of all the gender inequalities, abuse and violence in Swazi homes, this was a small issue. He said in a world where women worked just as hard and could earn just as much as their male partners, it was unfair to expect women to also perform all the duties which made a home clean, safe and comfortable.
Twenty-first century men must take a stand for their long-term happiness and those of their children and families. If that involves doing some laundry then we support and applaud Pastor Bakhe and all other men who do so, men who understand and believe that gender does not equal a division of household chores and responsibilities. Churchyard also shared that 100 years ago, during the Suffragette Movement in Europe and America, women wore their bras on the outside of their clothing to shock and disturb men as they marched. Could the country be facing the same issues a century later?